BlogJam

When I feel stressed or overwhelmed, it’s helpful to understand what Driver Behaviours I tend to engage in. Clinical psychologist Taibi Kahler defines Drivers as learnt ways of being and doing to feel in control/ avoid discomfort.

“We do so much, we run so quickly, the situation is difficult, and many people say, “Don’t just sit there, do something.” …

So here we are at the Trust is Us leadership conference with a full tally 150+ middle to senior leaders in attendance. Inclusivity is high on the agenda. My colleague from the ea and I are taking in the room, and there, holding their breath in the aisle against the walls, are the Five Elephants. This is what I learned when lending them my ear.

I’ve always been a well-meaning but neglectful gardener, so bindweed does tend to get the upper hand in my garden. I was just getting my hands in the soil for the first time in a few months and, noticing how the leafy white-trumpet-flowered creeper had spread since the last time, I exclaimed to my partner “Bindweed! The most successful of plants”. And then I stopped in the midst of teasing those soft, brittle white roots out from the stony soil, and said out loud “Actually, is this success?”